I'm that girl with a list...

Sometimes what you want isn't what you need.

Sometimes what you need isn't what you want.

And sometimes, what you think you want isn't what you really want because you want what you need and what you want at the moment isn't what you need for the rest of your life.

....anyone who can make sense of that must be going through the same thing I'm going through. If you're not, don't worry about understanding it. Ha.

I'm that girl who's always had a list outlining what I want in a guy. Let me stop here and say, I'm SUPER picky and I'm totally aware of that. I want a lot in a guy and my chances of finding a guy who fits every last little thing is practically a million to one. But hey, it could happen.

Anyway, I've been dealing with that whole "list" idea lately and how I compare guys to it. I know my standards are high, so I've been trying to separate what HAS to be there and what would be nice.

The tall, dark and hansom kind of things are fast moving to the "it would be nice" list because seriously, there's no way to know what THE guy will look like or how tall he'll be or how much that really matters.

But what IS important is character traits and goals and motivations - the things that make you, well, you.

I'm a bit old fashioned when it comes to he dating idea in that I think the guy should step up and take the lead in showing his interest. The idea of him coming to me is important because I'm not the type to throw myself at a guy...and I don't think that's a bad thing.

Still, when a guy is totally attractive and compatible with me in a lot of ways, it's hard to remember the MUSTS on the list. Therein lies the problem...since I can easily get caught up in the emotion and the chemistry and ignore the reality of who he is and where he sees himself going in the future.

For that reason, I'm a firm believer in the "friends first" idea, and now more than ever I am positive that I want to marry my best friend. The foundation a solid, lasting friendship provides is priceless. Besides, that's the hard part. If you can stick by each other as friends through good and bad, the "romance" part of a relationship comes way easier. That's the easy part. Which is why most people get caught up in it, rather than in actually getting to know the person before making the emotional commitment.

I could go on and on about this because it's clearly been on my mind a lot. But I'm sure if anyone were to read this they'd already be confused enough so I'll end my rant here. I'll be sure to update again if my ideas change again. ha.