When did good become bad?

So, I've always been the "good girl." ...and people, let me tell ya it was never meant in a nice way. Ha. I grew up concerned about doing things right, getting good grades, obeying my parents, blah blah blah. The good girl. Little miss perfect. "Too good" for "regular" people.

I've been thinking about this a lot the last few days. Dwelling on it, really. Here's my beef...

....seriously? First of all, no one is THAT good or THAT perfect. Everyone has their faults, their failures, their regrets. We all have things we're not proud of or habits we should get rid of. So the whole idea of being "too perfect" is ridiculous anyways.

That said, what's so bad about being the good girl (or for you guys out there, the good guy)? I mean really, when did being good become bad?

You know the saying, "Nice guys always finish last." Why is that? What is it about a guy or a girl who works hard in life, has a good job, a house, a family, friends...even "perfect" looks...that is such a bad thing?

I've been told by guys - even guys who claim to be interested in me - that I'm "too good" for them. I don't get that. What does that even mean? Should I try to be bad-er (yes, I said it that way intentionally) in order to have more friends or a great boyfriend? Shouldn't the people you love make you BETTER not WORSE?

I lived a lot of years trying to shed that good girl image. Then I discovered something about myself - it wasn't an image. It was me. I'm just that way. And no one - NO ONE - should have to change who they are in order to be good enough (or, I guess bad enough) for anyone else.

So I got to the point where I used it as a filter - if someone gave me a hard time about being the good girl or a guy gave me the "You're too perfect...you're just too good for me" line, I knew they weren't really worth stressing over. Ya know?

For me, if a relationship is going to be right - whether it's a dating relationship or just a friendship - no one will fault you for being "good." As soon as you being good turns bad, drop 'em like a bad habit (and you and I both know how to do that!). Trust me, your life will be better off that way.

I recently saw a situation with a guy that was falling hard for a girl...and she pushed him away because he was "too perfect." If you're that guy (or girl) here' s my advice - don't EVER let ANYONE tell you you're too perfect. Just be you. And if you're really that genuinely nice guy (...or girl) don't get discouraged when someone tries to fault you for that. Just recognize that they're not "the one" and move one. Because I promise, THE one will not just think you're perfect, they'll know you are!! :)

So go on, be your wonderful, kind, sweet, gracious, passionate, successful, good looking, perfect self and don't ever let anyone convince you that good is bad.

Nice guys might finish last, but they usually finish with the most rewarding happily ever after you'll ever find.